Some tolerations are more challenging, and require more time and energy. One of my clients identified where he is living as a toleration, another has a customer who often cancels meetings at the last minute. Handling the more challenging tolerations usually eliminate more then one toleration. My client needed to earn more money so that he could move, which would also enable him to keep his car in better repair, another toleration. Setting clear boundaries with the canceling customer enabled my other client to set clear boundaries in all of his relationships. No matter what it is, handling a toleration feels really good and helps you to feel good about yourself.
So here are some tips for handling tolerations:
· Write them all down, regardless of whether them seem big or small, possible or impossible to handle. If you don't acknowledge them, you will never address them.
· Prioritize them and handle a few at a time. Do not overwhelm yourself.
· Combine small and large ones. In this way you can get some instant gratification from sewing on that button or making that phone call at the same time that you are dealing with a toleration that requires more time to handle.
· Include handling a toleration that will address more then one toleration.
Be patient and kind to yourself, especially if you are going after some large tolerations. Hang in there. It's worth it.
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