Are You A Perfectionist? Part 2

Perfectionism may result in a lack of motivation (why bother, you'll never be able to do it well enough), paralysis (why even start, you know you'll fail), obsessive/compulsive behavior (maintaining those shoulds), and has been demonstrated to be a central issue for those with eating disorders. On the lower end of the continuum, we've all experienced it to some degree when we procrastinate doing something in an area where we doubt our abilities.

Wait, I hear some people saying I'm not a perfectionist; I'm a high achiever. Well, high achievers and perfectionists both want to do their best and there are some huge differences. High achievers set high and realistic standards, accept that making mistakes and risking failure are part of the achievement process and enjoy the process. They don't experience failure as a reflection of unworthiness resulting in ridicule and rejection.

Here are some steps you can take to cope with perfectionism and perfectionism tendencies.
-The first essential and necessary step is to become aware of the ways in which you are a perfectionist. Along with this you must give yourself permission to be human, to accept and have respect for reality.
-Have a clear-eyed look at what perfectionism is costing you and those around you. Use this to motivate yourself to address your perfectionism.
-Make an effort and make it a habit to look for the positive. Enjoy finding 3 positives for every negative you find in yourself, others or about your work.
-Recognize that failure and mistakes create the opportunity for improvement.
-Separate who you are from what you do. Recognize your inherent worth that is unconditional.
-Focus on the journey, which is the true reward.
-Set realistic goals.

Perfectionism is a tyranny from which you can escape. Remember, if you and those around you are not measuring up, it's time to wonder about your ruler.